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Hindu Marriage – An Overview

20 Feb

miAccording to the Hindu religion, marriages are considered a sacred affair. Marriages are not just about a lifelong affair, it is a relationship that is supposed to last for the next seven lives. Hindu marriages are a long drawn affair, where there are a dozen (& sometimes more) auspicious rituals & ceremonies which have to be followed. And, it is not only the bride and groom who have to be there, the whole troupe of family members & close relatives have to take part & shower their blessings on the happy couple.

Within Hindu Marriages too, there are a lot of variations depending upon the state and ethnicity of the couple. Though there may be some unique customs & rituals specific to certain regions, there are some common ceremonies & rituals which are universally followed.

Some Common Rituals And Ceremonies followed in Hindu Marriages

  • The Hindu weddings are solemnized by a Hindu priest who performs all the rituals, etc. in the proper manner.
  • In a typical Hindu marriage, the astrological charts are consulted in order to find an auspicious day & time for solemnizing the marriage. As per the Hindu belief, this ensures that the couple is blessed with a happy married life.
  • The couple is made to sit in front of the holy fire which signifies the sacredness of the relationship. The sacred fire is also believed to be a witness to the holy union.
  • Another thing which is common to all type of Hindu marriages includes the part where the groom smears the forehead of the bride with Sindur (red powder). The red color is considered auspicious according to Hindu belief. The groom also ties a Mangalsutra (a sacred thread) around the bride’s neck. Together, i.e. the Mangalsutra & the Sindur are considered the mark of a married Hindu woman.

The couple takes seven rounds around the holy fire (called the Saat Pheras). Each of the pheras stand for different vows, seven in total.

The ceremonies mentioned above are just a few of the ones actually followed. There are many other small & big rituals (which are considered essential) in order for the Hindu marriage to be considered complete.

Importance Of Mangalsutra In Women’s Life

18 May

Hindu religion defines five essential signs of marital status of women which are mangalsutra, sindoor, nose ring, toe ring and bangles. Though each of the five signs is equally important but mangalsutra holds special significance for a married Indian woman. Mangalsutra is termed as one of the most precious ornament for Indian women as along with sindoor it symbolizes her blessed fortune to have a long lived life partner.

Generally mangalsutra is made up of two strings of black beads that are usually small in size along with a gold pendant. Furthermore, the gold pendant comprises of two or more comparatively bigger gold beads. These beads usually have a shape of small bowl. These are the most basic specifications regarding the built and design, and variations in the designing patterns of mangalsutra are evident from state to state. Like, in contrast to a north Indian Mangalsutra that may be made-up with plastic thread, a typical south Indian Mangalsutra is made exclusively with a cotton thread of yellow color.

Today in the Indian subcontinent, mangalsutra has become a fashion statement as well. The influence of television serials and movies has presented it as a trendy ornament. Today, jewelry showrooms are packed with a vast variety of Mangalsutras. Generally people prefer to buy gold mangalsutra, but now few other precious and semi precious metals are also used in making mangalsutra. As per the affordability, one can choose from a wide range of gold plated mangalsutra, silver mangalsutra, gold mangalsutra or mangalsutra engraved with diamonds a well.

Though, Mangalsutra is a tradition in all states of India, but it essentially belongs to the married women of south India. In some states of south India Mangalsutra is also known as thalli, thaaly or mangalyam. In southern belt of India, wearing Mangalsutra is a strongly followed custom. At the time of south Indian wedding, there is an important ritual called mangalya dharanam (wearing the mangalsutra), wherein the mangalsutra is tied around the bride’s neck with three knots. In some traditions the groom ties the first knot and the rest two are tied by the groom’s sister. The significance of joining of the beads in one string in the mangalsutra is that, ‘just like each and every bead makes a contribution in the aesthetic necklace, the woman has to blend and integrate into the new family’.

There are some traditional believes related to mangalsutra as well. It is believed that the black beads are the protector from the evil and eyes of bad people. So married woman wear the mangalsutra for the protection of her husband and marriage. Mangalsutra gifted by the groom to the bride represents his dignity and love towards her as well. Lastly, many ancient traditions have disappeared in the mist of time but mangalsutra has been able to maintain its significance and still no Hindu marriage is considered complete without the mangalsutra.

Importance of Seven Pheras in Indian Wedding

15 May

Hindu marriages are well renowned around the world for all the rituals and events forming part of the marriage ceremony. Whether it is a week long celebrations before the actual wedding date or night long parties, the joy and exuberance evident in Indian weddings is simply unparalleled.

Among various ceremonies and sacred rites; there exists ritual of 7 pheras (encirclements or roundabouts) that is considered as one of the most sacred and significant ritual of them all. 7 pheras also called Saptapadi (in Sanskrit language) basically refer to the ceremony of walking around the sacred fire seven times at the time of wedding. As in Hindu religion, it is believed that the “fire or agni” is the maintainer of life and all the Gods and Goddesses are always present around this sacred fire, so the bride and bridegroom are required to take this ritual together around the holy fire that is believed to be representing Agni Devta or God of Fire. The first three pheras are completed with the bride leading and in the rest pheras groom leads the way. Before diving into the significance of each phera lets have a look at that how the pheras are actually performed?

How are 7 pheras performed?
The ritual of 7 pheras is performed under the guidance of a priest, also called pandit in Hindi language. The priest (pandit) utters aloud the religious sayings (mantras), while the Hindu bride and the Hindu groom sit around the holy fire. After specific instructions from the priest, the bride and the groom rise up and walk around the fire seven times & with the completion of the 7th phera the ritual of 7 pheras is said to be completed.

Significance of each phera
As the name suggests, the ritual of pheras comprises of 7 pheras in all. Each phera has a distinct significance and meaning for the bride and the groom; a brief of which is mentioned below: -

Phera 1
In the first phera , the couple pray to God to extend his blessings on them in the form of healthy food and respectful life. First phera also indicates that God is the only ultimate deity, who can bless the couple with boon of honorable life and wholesome food

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman”
By performing the first phera lets promise to each other that our love shall become more intense with each passing day. We will help each other in every possible manner. You will cook food for me. I will bestow my love and affection upon you and shower my goodness during this journey of our married life. I will treat you kindly along with lots of love, so as to keep you happy and healthy.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Dhanam dhanyam pade vadet”
I will wholeheartedly accept your judgment. I promise you that I will fulfill all the responsibilities of your family with utmost care and dedication. I will take care of your honor and remain abided by your love forever.

2nd phera
In the second phera, the couple pleads to God for imparting them with mental stability, physical health and spiritual strength so that they can live there life smoothly after getting entangled in this pure relation of being husband-wife forever

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om oorje jara dastayaha”
By performing the ritual of second phera let us promise to each other that we will stand by each other forever. You will be initiating my strength and courage along with me. Together, we shall defend our home and family from all types of odd things and evil power.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”
I will always fill your heart with exuberant courage and strength. I pledge that I will utter only pleasant words. I shall be supporting you in protecting our family and children from evil powers. You shall love only me as your life partner.

3rd phera
In the third phera, The couple invoke the God to provide them with uttermost wealth, wisdom and prosperity so that they can live contented and satisfied ever after. Third phera also signifies the importance of religious and sacred responsibility which shall be performed by the couple in there future life.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om rayas Santu joradastayaha”
By performing the ritual of third phera, let us promise each other that we will remain spiritually abide by each other. I will look towards other woman only as my sisters. We shall grow and flourish together under the sacred and holy sanctity of God.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”
I will love you for whole of my life. I will consider all other men as my brothers. My love and respect for you will never fade. By virtue of my love and devotion I will remain as a chaste wife.

4th phera
In the fourth phera, the couple prays to the god for bestowing happiness and rapport on them. Fourth phera also signifies the importance of family, parents and elders. Fourth phera bring out a commitment between the two souls that they will remain pledged to take care of there elders, family members and parents for rest of there life.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om mayo bhavyas jaradastaya ha”
By performing the ritual of fourth phera, let us promise each other that we will provide utmost aid to our elders and parents. You will bring fortune and sanctity in my life. May god bless us with an ecstatic life and healthy children

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Lalayami cha pade vadet.”
I will decorate myself with jewelry, flowers and garlands just for you. Euphoria of my fragrance will be bestowed on only you. I will serve you and please you in every possible way.

5th phera
In the Fifth Phera , the couple pray to almighty to bless his kindness for all the living things of this universe. They pray for the happiness and well being of each others relatives and friends. Fifth Phera denotes the bride’s and bridegroom’s concern with each other’s family members and relatives. It also signifies their moral responsibilities towards the charities and universe welfare. Another importance of fifth Phera is that they pray for a noble breed.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “”Om prajabhyaha Santu jaradastayaha”
Dear, we have walked four steps together. By taking this fifth steps with me, you have enriched my life. May you be blessed with every happiness. May our loved ones live long and happy life. Please come and share my duties for all charity acts. Come with me so we can enrich our family and get blessed with noble, righteous and brave children.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language Arte arba sapade vadet”
I will be with you in all the circumstances. I will share your happiness and joy and I will also share your grieves. Your love will give me strength to trust and respect you. My utmost concern would be your wish fulfillment. I pledge to do all possible tasks to carry out your wishes.

6th phera
By performing Sixth phera couple implore for a long and happy life. They pray to almighty to extend his blessings for a long lived togetherness. They wish to enjoy endless plentiful seasons with each other. Sixth phera is completely related to the long, joyous life and togetherness.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
My Love, you have added immense happiness to my life, by taking six steps with me. My heart is filled with joy. I wish to have you always by my side. May you be with me forever and glut my life with pleasure and peace

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet”
I assure you that I will always walk beside you. I promise you that I will happily participate with you in all your noble acts. I will stand with you to perform the jobs to enrich our mercenary prosperity and enjoyment. I will also extend my efforts for all your devotional duties

7th phera
Seventh Phera is the last phera which adds completion to the ritual of seven pheras. In seventh Phera , Bride & Bridegroom plead for a joy full life. The couple begs the god for a long lasting bond enriched with good understanding, loyalty and companionship. They pledge to bear the relationship with love and honesty. The couple invokes and also prays for universal peace as well as social welfare.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om sakhi jaradastayahga.”
My beloved, we have performed seven pheras together and now we have a single identity. Henceforth we would be incomplete without each other. Our existence is entirely devoted to each other. I am completely yours and you are completely mine. Our bond has become perpetual. May we have an everlasting marriage.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade.”
With the pious of seven steps, I have been privileged to be your wife. I promise you to be always truthful. We will love each other forever. All the promises we have taken during this holy ritual, we will do all the possible to carry out the same with pure intentions. We pledge to be transparent with each other

MatrimonialsIndia.Com – Blogs Release April 2012

1 May

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Set Up The Most Beautiful Mandap For Your Wedding
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Ideals of Hindu Marriage
Hinduism recognizes men and women as two halves of divine body. Hindu matrimony symbolize the divine concept for the union of these two halves. According to Hindu scriptures, the basic idea behind a Hindu marriage is the lifelong union of man and woman so that the two can move forward in their lives and achieve their goals [...]

Ideals of Hindu Marriage

25 Apr

Hinduism recognizes men and women as two halves of divine body. Hindu matrimony symbolize the divine concept for the union of these two halves. According to Hindu scriptures, the basic idea behind a Hindu marriage is the lifelong union of man and woman so that the two can move forward in their lives and achieve their goals. The union ensures that the two stay together in happy and difficult times and pursue their worldly duty. Understanding the needs of each other and sacrifice for the happiness of the other is the essence of a Hindu marriage.

The Concept Of Dharma, Artha, Kama & Moksha
Hindu marriage assimilates the idea of Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha. The word Dharma literally means duty. It should be the priority of a Hindu couple to pursue its duties while they lead their marital life. Artha signifies physical possessions. Kama means bodily pleasure and eventually Moksha is the ultimate spiritual release of the soul from the worldly affairs. The above mentioned concepts are indispensable in one’s life and Hindu marriage is the way to pursue them. Through marriage man and woman attain union. They accumulate wealth for a healthy life style. More importantly, their intimate connection gratifies their physical needs and at the same time upholds the universal law of Jeevan (birth) with the birth of their children. Eventually, the Hindu marriage culminates with Moksha, which is the spiritual state of release of soul from the body.

Individual Roles In Hindu Matrimonials
The very rituals followed in a Hindu wedding are a prelude to the ideals of Hindu marriage. The oaths taken in the rituals lay down the norms for the couple to pursue. Sacrifice, self restraint, love, respect, care and honesty are the essentials in a Hindu marriage. Maintaining the probity of the relation is foremost. The commitment shown by Hindu bride towards their husbands is unparalleled in the world and perhaps the very attribute that separates a Hindu marriage from the rest.

They should remember that the sanctity of the relation should be preserved and the lifelong nature of the matrimonial tie should be kept intact. On the other hand, women should too adjust to the new family and settings. After all, a Hindu marriage is not just the matter of staying together; it’s about living together happily with each other and for each other.

Customs, Rituals and Indian Hindu Marriages

24 Apr

Hindu Marriages in India are a grand affair, involving a lot of customs and rituals and where the whole community of family, friends, relatives and social circle come together to celebrate the occasion with great style and pomp. Hindu Marriages in India are usually considered an once-in-a-lifetime, auspicious affair. Depending upon the region to which the couple belongs, there is a host of customs and rituals involved. In many Indian communities, Hindu Marriages are a lengthy, drawn out affair with many lasting up to a week or so. The tradition and customs differ from one state to another. Many communities are very strict about these rituals while others are not. With time many old rituals and customs have been discarded, but Indian marriages are still considered as a spiritual affair.

Sagai, Mehendi, Haldi and Tilak are some of the important pre-wedding customs followed across northern states. Sagai refers to the engagement ceremony, which happens prior to the wedding. It is a comparatively sober affair compared to the main wedding but still celebrated with great style. The Mehendi ceremony is also a pre-wedding celebration, where the bride and other women in the family get their hands decorated with heena. There is a lot of dancing and singing throughout the ceremony. A Haldi ceremony on the other hand is an affair in which both the groom and the bride participate. Haldi is applied on them generously by all family members, relatives and friends. In a Tilak ceremony, the groom is welcomed at the bride’s home by applying a Tilak on his forehead and he is presented with shagun (auspicious offering). These are some of the commonly followed pre-wedding customs in an Indian Hindu Marriage.

Then the most important day, i.e. is the marriage day itself, is celebrated with great fanfare and enthusiasm. On this day, there is the Phera ceremony, which is considered very auspicious and holy and an Indian Hindu marriage is incomplete without this ritual. This ceremony involves circling around the sacred fire seven times to seal the marriage vows. An emotional ceremony before the Phera, is the Kanyadaan where the bride’s father gives away his daughter. An equally emotional and sensitive affair involves the bride’s finally leaving for her husband’s home which is called Bidai. These are just some of the main ceremonies followed; Hindu marriages involve a wide array of many other customs and rituals.

Set Up The Most Beautiful Mandap For Your Wedding

17 Apr

Any Hindu marriage will be incomplete without a Wedding Mandap as most of the rituals are performed in the mandap itself. A beautiful mandap is the main attraction of a wedding where the groom and the bride take vows around the sacred fire to get bonded with each other for the lifetime. A beautifully decorated mandap will enhance the wedding celebrations and will make your wedding ceremony an unforgettable one.

Different Types of Decorations For Your Wedding Mandap:
While decorating the mandap you need to think of a theme as most of the wedding mandaps are theme based. Most of the decoration is either done with traditional colored red and golden draperies or either with beautiful flowers both fresh and artificial ones. The decorations done by the wedding planner are attractive and bright and are able to lure everyone’s mind who is present at the wedding. Apart from this the decorations can also be done through decorative artifacts. Some of the wedding mandaps are also decorated by peacock feathers as well as flowers.

Special Features Which Are In Demand While Decorating Wedding Mandap:

  • Flowers like baby rose, orchid and lilies are in great demand while decorating wedding mandaps.
  • Colors like mauve, peach, pink and sea greens are the prominent colors which are in great demand by those who are planning their wedding.
  • Electrical garlands are replaced by lanterns and traditional candles.
  • Netted silver drapes are immensely popular items for mandap decorations.

If your wedding date is decided and you are confused that which theme you want for decorating your mandap, then the above article will give you a basic idea while you are planning your wedding theme. Your main motive is to make your one time experience a lifetime one and can cherish your memories in the years to come.

The Tradition of Sindoor

6 Apr

You might have seen women wearing sindoor along the parting line of their hair. What is the first thing that comes to your mind?

The first thing that might come to your mind when you see someone wearing sindoor is that she is married. Sindoor is also known as Vermillion. It is not merely a red colored powder; it has a deep significance in Hindu tradition. In traditional Hindu society, wearing sindoor is considered must for married women. It is a visible expression of their desire for their husbands’ longer life. The sindoor, apart from being an auspicious adornment, also plays the role of a silent communicator. Therefore, widows are not allowed to wear it.

Red color is considered the symbol of happiness and love in India. Most of the brides in India in almost every religion and culture are made to wear red color attire at the time of her wedding. The Indian bride holds great pride in wearing a sindoor, which adds to the beauty of a married woman.

The sindoor is first applied to the woman by her husband on the day of her wedding. This ritual is one of the most important rituals on the wedding day, which marks end of the ceremonial procedure. After this, she must apply this every day herself in the parting of her hairline. The parting of hair is symbolic of river of red blood full of life. Sindoor is counted one of the essential components in solah shringaar, which is important for a Hindu married woman. Sindoor is said to complete the look of a married woman along with bindi, mangalsutra, mehndi, bangles etc. However, symbolizes that the life of the woman who is wearing it is full colors and happiness.

Hindu Marriage Rituals

8 Jun

Marriage is considered to be a sanctified bond. The couples are believed to be chosen by god in the heaven itself. The marriage ceremony especially in case of Hindu weddings is an elaborate affair. Both the boy and the girl who are going to tie the knot have to follow intense rituals on and before the wedding take place.

The couple has to take various pledges before they are pronounced to be a married couple. Knowing your rituals help you understand their importance. So, here we present you the 13th main rituals that are followed by the bride and the bridegroom.

Vara Satkaarah
‘Vara’ means bridegroom and ‘Satkaarah’ means their reception. So, according to this ritual the bride’s relatives have to receive or welcome the bridegroom and his relatives at the entry of the wedding menu. The bridegroom is blessed by the bride’s mother and is applied a tilak. Meanwhile, the priests continue to chant the holy mantras.

Madhuparka Ceremony
The next ritual is to receive the bridegroom on the stage. At this time the father of the bride gives various gifts to the bridegroom and his family members.

Kanya Dan
Daughter is given away to the bridegroom by the bride’s father. The ceremony takes place along with chanting of various mantras.

It is holy fire ceremony that establishes that all important occasions start in a spiritual atmosphere.

According to this, the bride’s right hand is kept in left hand of the bridegroom. While chanting some mantras the bridegroom accepts the bride as his wife.

The bride and the bridegroom walk around the holy fire taking vows of loyalty, life-long fidelity and never ending love.

Shila Arohan
The bride steps on a stone slab with the help of her mother. This indicates the movement of the girl’s life to the next stage.

The bride and the bridegroom offer rice to the holy fire by keeping their hands in each other’s hands.

The scarf of the groom is tied to the dress of the bride in a tight knot.

Parikrama or Pradakshina or Mangal Fera
This is commonly known as the ‘seven pheras’. The couple has to take seven rounds of the holy fire along with the mantras chanted by the priest. This according to the Hindu Marriage Act legalizes the marriage.

Water is sprinkled while meditating on the pole star and the sun.

Anna Praashan
Food is offered by the couple into the holy fire and then to each other.

Blessings of the elders are garnered by the couple.

These ceremonies are duly followed by the Hindus so as to attain marital bliss for the couple. Our write up must have enlightened you on the 13th essential rituals to be followed in the Hindu wedding.

The next ritual is to receive the bridegroom on the stage. At this time the father of the bride gives various gifts to the bridegroom and his family members.

Hindu Vidaai Ceremony

12 May

Wedding is an auspicious day in the life of all. This sacrosanct bond ties together a boy and a girl in a strong and never-ending relationship. In India especially in the Hindu culture the institution of marriage holds a firm and superior place. Marriage means not only union of two bodies but two souls for seven lives. The Hindu marriage ceremonies are vast and are celebrated for days together in great spirits.

The different ceremonies that take place during a Hindu Wedding:

Largely the ceremonies are divided into pre-marriage, wedding day and post-marriage ceremonies. Each of these ceremonies has their own individualistic importance. Vidaai ceremony is one of the most important post-marriage ceremonies.

Significance of Vidaai Ceremony:

This ceremony takes place towards the end of the marriage; it marks the end of celebrations especially for the bride’s family. This is the most emotional moment during the whole wedding procession.This ceremony means the departure of the bride from her father’s house. It symbolizes both happiness and sadness on the part of the bride: happiness as she is stepping into a new sphere of life and sadness because she leaves the home and people with whom she has been living all her life.

The members of the bride’s family, her relatives and friends all become sentimental, shed tears and at the same time bestow their blessings for her blissful future. The father according to this ceremony finally gives away his loving daughter to the bridegroom and prays for her protection. The bride during this ceremony has mixed feelings and the sense of parting from her parents brings tears to her eyes. She hugs all her near ones. Also, the bride has to throw away few handful of rice at her back. This signifies that she is returning what she has taken from her parents and also she wishes that her parent’s home should flourish. The newly wedded couple seeks blessings of the elders by touching their feet.

In the last stage of the Vidaai, the couple sits in the car that is pushed by the bride’s brothers. This signifies her stride into her new life. In most of the marriages brother of the bride goes along with her sister as a support to her.

The moments of this ceremony touches the heart of everyone present there even the groom’s family members. At the end of this ceremony the bride moves into her new life leaving behind her family and friends.


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