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The Changing Trends In Marriages

16 Oct

Marriage is a bond of two people who decide to spend their whole life with each other. Since traditional times, marriages have been an important part of the human society. Be it any country, community or religion, marriages are the foundation of human relations. There is a famous saying that marriages are made in heaven. This means that every person is destined to meet his/her life partner someday. While, some people do believe on this concept, there are also some people who do not find this statement practical enough.

It is indeed true, that some people do fall in love with someone during their lifetime and eventually marry them and swear that it was destined. But there are also some people who are not able to find their life partner miraculously and have to rely on different mediums for selecting the right partner. This does not mean that their marriages are not beautiful or they have to compromise. Instead, they just chose their partner in a more practical way and fall in love with them later.

In India particularly, love marriages are a comparatively new concept. Arranged marriage has been and still is the major wedding concept. Parents select a suitable life partner for their children and give blessings to them for a beautiful married life. While, earlier it used to take a lot of time to find a good partner for arranged marriages, today the presence of many matrimonial and matchmaking websites have literally made it possible to select a good partner easily without any problems.

Matchmaking websites provide suitable options to an individual and the person can get to know the other person by chatting, meeting and spending some time with him/her. The internet has virtually made it possible to find the desired life partner from any place, profession, age and status. While some websites charge some amount of money for their services, some of them are free and do not cost any money.

It only depends on the choice of the individual that which medium they want to choose for selecting the right life partner. Some may like to fall in love first and then marry while some may want to marry first and then fall in love. Both ways have their own set of advantages. Whichever concept they like the most, matrimonial websites are there to help in finding the right life partner. And who knows, if the selected person is actually the soul mate decided in heaven.

Importance of Seven Pheras in Indian Wedding

15 May

Hindu marriages are well renowned around the world for all the rituals and events forming part of the marriage ceremony. Whether it is a week long celebrations before the actual wedding date or night long parties, the joy and exuberance evident in Indian weddings is simply unparalleled.

Among various ceremonies and sacred rites; there exists ritual of 7 pheras (encirclements or roundabouts) that is considered as one of the most sacred and significant ritual of them all. 7 pheras also called Saptapadi (in Sanskrit language) basically refer to the ceremony of walking around the sacred fire seven times at the time of wedding. As in Hindu religion, it is believed that the “fire or agni” is the maintainer of life and all the Gods and Goddesses are always present around this sacred fire, so the bride and bridegroom are required to take this ritual together around the holy fire that is believed to be representing Agni Devta or God of Fire. The first three pheras are completed with the bride leading and in the rest pheras groom leads the way. Before diving into the significance of each phera lets have a look at that how the pheras are actually performed?

How are 7 pheras performed?
The ritual of 7 pheras is performed under the guidance of a priest, also called pandit in Hindi language. The priest (pandit) utters aloud the religious sayings (mantras), while the Hindu bride and the Hindu groom sit around the holy fire. After specific instructions from the priest, the bride and the groom rise up and walk around the fire seven times & with the completion of the 7th phera the ritual of 7 pheras is said to be completed.

Significance of each phera
As the name suggests, the ritual of pheras comprises of 7 pheras in all. Each phera has a distinct significance and meaning for the bride and the groom; a brief of which is mentioned below: -

Phera 1
In the first phera , the couple pray to God to extend his blessings on them in the form of healthy food and respectful life. First phera also indicates that God is the only ultimate deity, who can bless the couple with boon of honorable life and wholesome food

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman”
By performing the first phera lets promise to each other that our love shall become more intense with each passing day. We will help each other in every possible manner. You will cook food for me. I will bestow my love and affection upon you and shower my goodness during this journey of our married life. I will treat you kindly along with lots of love, so as to keep you happy and healthy.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Dhanam dhanyam pade vadet”
I will wholeheartedly accept your judgment. I promise you that I will fulfill all the responsibilities of your family with utmost care and dedication. I will take care of your honor and remain abided by your love forever.

2nd phera
In the second phera, the couple pleads to God for imparting them with mental stability, physical health and spiritual strength so that they can live there life smoothly after getting entangled in this pure relation of being husband-wife forever

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om oorje jara dastayaha”
By performing the ritual of second phera let us promise to each other that we will stand by each other forever. You will be initiating my strength and courage along with me. Together, we shall defend our home and family from all types of odd things and evil power.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”
I will always fill your heart with exuberant courage and strength. I pledge that I will utter only pleasant words. I shall be supporting you in protecting our family and children from evil powers. You shall love only me as your life partner.

3rd phera
In the third phera, The couple invoke the God to provide them with uttermost wealth, wisdom and prosperity so that they can live contented and satisfied ever after. Third phera also signifies the importance of religious and sacred responsibility which shall be performed by the couple in there future life.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om rayas Santu joradastayaha”
By performing the ritual of third phera, let us promise each other that we will remain spiritually abide by each other. I will look towards other woman only as my sisters. We shall grow and flourish together under the sacred and holy sanctity of God.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”
I will love you for whole of my life. I will consider all other men as my brothers. My love and respect for you will never fade. By virtue of my love and devotion I will remain as a chaste wife.

4th phera
In the fourth phera, the couple prays to the god for bestowing happiness and rapport on them. Fourth phera also signifies the importance of family, parents and elders. Fourth phera bring out a commitment between the two souls that they will remain pledged to take care of there elders, family members and parents for rest of there life.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om mayo bhavyas jaradastaya ha”
By performing the ritual of fourth phera, let us promise each other that we will provide utmost aid to our elders and parents. You will bring fortune and sanctity in my life. May god bless us with an ecstatic life and healthy children

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Lalayami cha pade vadet.”
I will decorate myself with jewelry, flowers and garlands just for you. Euphoria of my fragrance will be bestowed on only you. I will serve you and please you in every possible way.

5th phera
In the Fifth Phera , the couple pray to almighty to bless his kindness for all the living things of this universe. They pray for the happiness and well being of each others relatives and friends. Fifth Phera denotes the bride’s and bridegroom’s concern with each other’s family members and relatives. It also signifies their moral responsibilities towards the charities and universe welfare. Another importance of fifth Phera is that they pray for a noble breed.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “”Om prajabhyaha Santu jaradastayaha”
Dear, we have walked four steps together. By taking this fifth steps with me, you have enriched my life. May you be blessed with every happiness. May our loved ones live long and happy life. Please come and share my duties for all charity acts. Come with me so we can enrich our family and get blessed with noble, righteous and brave children.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language Arte arba sapade vadet”
I will be with you in all the circumstances. I will share your happiness and joy and I will also share your grieves. Your love will give me strength to trust and respect you. My utmost concern would be your wish fulfillment. I pledge to do all possible tasks to carry out your wishes.

6th phera
By performing Sixth phera couple implore for a long and happy life. They pray to almighty to extend his blessings for a long lived togetherness. They wish to enjoy endless plentiful seasons with each other. Sixth phera is completely related to the long, joyous life and togetherness.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
My Love, you have added immense happiness to my life, by taking six steps with me. My heart is filled with joy. I wish to have you always by my side. May you be with me forever and glut my life with pleasure and peace

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet”
I assure you that I will always walk beside you. I promise you that I will happily participate with you in all your noble acts. I will stand with you to perform the jobs to enrich our mercenary prosperity and enjoyment. I will also extend my efforts for all your devotional duties

7th phera
Seventh Phera is the last phera which adds completion to the ritual of seven pheras. In seventh Phera , Bride & Bridegroom plead for a joy full life. The couple begs the god for a long lasting bond enriched with good understanding, loyalty and companionship. They pledge to bear the relationship with love and honesty. The couple invokes and also prays for universal peace as well as social welfare.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om sakhi jaradastayahga.”
My beloved, we have performed seven pheras together and now we have a single identity. Henceforth we would be incomplete without each other. Our existence is entirely devoted to each other. I am completely yours and you are completely mine. Our bond has become perpetual. May we have an everlasting marriage.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade.”
With the pious of seven steps, I have been privileged to be your wife. I promise you to be always truthful. We will love each other forever. All the promises we have taken during this holy ritual, we will do all the possible to carry out the same with pure intentions. We pledge to be transparent with each other

MatrimonialsIndia.Com – Blogs Release August 2011

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Saat Phere- Tying The Bonds Of Holy Matrimony

5 Aug

Matrimony is the union of two lives, two families and two souls. A Hindu wedding consists of several rituals each having its own significance. The ‘seven vows’ or ‘saat phere’ is a noteworthy ceremony as a marriage is incomplete without it. Also known as ‘Saptadi’, the Seven Vows/Saat Phere are the rounds taken together by the bride and groom around the holy fire place. With every round, they make one promise to their partner thus making seven promises in all.

Each one of the seven phera’s has a distinct meaning and is symbolic of a promise which is meant to be kept for a lifetime. The custom of Seven Vows/Saat Phere has had a rich historical significance to it. It is believed that the saat pheras were started with the wedding of Hindu deity Lord Shiva and his wife Goddess Parvati. Thus, the pheras have a spiritual connotation attached to them. The bride is seated towards left of the groom before the pheras and then towards the right after they are complete.

The First One of the Saptadi is symbolic and the groom promises to cherish his wife and provide for her welfare and the children. He asks for a promise to provide him food and be helpful in every way. The bride in return promises to discharge all responsibilities for welfare of the all family members and children.

In the Second One the groom says “My beloved, now you have walked the second round with me, fill my heart with strength and courage, and together we shall protect the household and children.” In return the bride promises to be sad in her husband’s grief and rejoice in his happiness and fill his heart with love & courage and please him always.

In the Third Phera, the bride and groom pray for their prosperity & wealth and the groom promises to love and respect his wife as the only woman. The bride promises single-minded devotion to her husband. After completing the third phera in the Fourth Phera groom says, “You have brought auspiciousness and sacredness into my life. May we be blessed with obedient and noble children, may they live long.” And the bride promises him to provide him extreme happiness and please him in every way.

In the Fifth Saptadi the groom acknowledges his wife as his best friend who has enriched his life and the wife promises to trust and honor her husband always. The groom in the Sixth Round blesses his wife for joy & peace at all times and the bride promises; “In all acts of righteousness, in every form of enjoyment and divine acts, I promise you I shall participate and I shall always be with you.”  The marriage is complete in the Seventh Vow where both the bride and groom accept each other as husband and wife and promise each other to make their marriage eternally blissful.

The seven vows thus tie two people in bonds of holy matrimony which is believed to be blessed by the divine and cherished for a lifetime.

How To Write Wedding Vows?

21 Sep

Writing your own Wedding Vow but are at a loss of words? Want to write the most unique wedding Vow ever for your loved one but can not find the best way to express yourself? Let us help you with this daunting albeit special task that will be remembered by your better-half for a lifetime.

Wedding vows are the final declaration made by the heart that you have found the one who will share every moment of your life, through a collection of all the thoughts for your loved one. Wedding vows, whether classic, traditional or new age, solemnize your marriage ceremony with special lines or verses, written just for the love of your life. There are many instances where the bride or groom-to-be has been moved to tears with the special words being written and recited for them in front of their loved ones.

The idea is to write something unique and personalized because this is not just some person, but the one with whom you will be spending the rest of your life, someone who will witness your happiness, share your sorrows and grow old with you.

Below are mentioned few tips about writing wedding vows: -

  1. The first step is to write down the set of qualities that attracted you to him/her in the first place. Is he/she the one you had always visualized marrying or someone totally unexpected who changed the course of your life? Write about the habits that you like in them and all those things that you find adorable.
  2. The single most special thing to discuss in your wedding vows is citing the incident when you met for the first time and when you fell in love. Rekindling those memories when you are getting married is like remembering the sole reason why you decided to get married to this person.
  3. Write how the relationship has changed you and how this marriage will change your lives when you are united.
  4. Writing why you want to be married in the first place is a great idea along with mentioning your idea of a marriage and what it means for you.
  5. Citing romantic lines from literature might sound clichéd but they are an essential part of any Wedding Vow. You can even add lines from your favorite song or the songs that hold a special meaning for the two of you.
  6. A little humor can be included in a Wedding Vow along with the traditional lines as it takes off the stress and makes the atmosphere all the more pleasant.

Keep the Wedding Vows short enough and write the final version on a note-card. Once you are done with writing, practice it with all your emotions as you would on the final day. It does not matter if you have a way with words or not, finally what matters is that you are telling your true feelings from the innermost recesses of your heart.


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