Rituals In A Muslim Wedding – An Introduction

21 May

As per the Islamic teachings, the marriage is not just a union of two people; it is a sacred ceremony that lays the foundation for a family. Muslim marriages are called ‘Nikah’ & are traditionally solemnized by the Imam. The traditional Muslim marriages take place in a Mosque in the presence of family, friends & other relatives.

Though there are many different kinds of rituals followed in different kinds of Muslim marriages, a few are universally followed.  A few of such rituals are mentioned in the below write up.

  • Reciting Of The Sermon - In the traditional Muslim marriages, the family & relatives congregate in the mosque & Imam starts off the Nikah Ceremony by reciting sermons. Herein, the Imam may also make the husband & wife understand their responsibilities towards each other. The Imam also may explain about the sanctity of this institution of marriage.
  • Announcing The Marriage - The Imam announces the marriage to the public & names of the parties involved are announced. There is usually a written contract which is signed by the guardian of the bride, the bridegroom & the bride, and two witnesses. In the mosque when the Nikah is being solemnized, the Imam publicly asks each of the parties involved i.e. the bridegroom, the bride & the guardian for their verbal consent, on the spot. Once all the parties have given their consent, the marriage is finally solemnized. The dower i.e. the settlement that the groom has to pay to his bride exchanges hand. The details about the dower (how much settlement to give, whether money or other valuables is to be given, etc.) are declared before the ceremony.
  • Rukhstana, or the Sending Off Ceremony - In this ceremony, the bride is finally sent off & her near & dear ones bid her farewell. There is a gathering of friends & relatives who are treated to lavish dinner. The guests offer their blessings & gifts to the newly-wed couple.
  • Waleema Party - Once the marriage is consummated, the bridegroom organizes a Waleema Party where the friends, family & relatives (from both sides) are invited. There is usually a grand feast for the guests.

These are among some of most commonly followed rituals in a conventional Muslim Marriage.

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Keys To A Successful Marriage

14 May

Keys-To-A-Successful-Marriage--MIRather than being a norm, successful marriages are an exception today. Everywhere you see there is either a marriage breaking up or one on the verge of collapsing. Is it so difficult to sustain a marriage? Are the people who have a loving relationship with their spouses despite years of marriage, really exceptional people? Of course not! In fact, sustaining a marital relationship is not as tough as it is made it out to be. There are some basic keys that ensure that you have a loving & caring relationship with your spouse. This article is all about such key elements which combine to make a solid foundation for lasting marriage

Keys To A Successful Marriage
Successful marriages do not happen by chance, they need a lot of hard work & dedication on part of both the partners. Apart from this, other key factors include -

1. Honesty - Honesty is very essential in a marriage, & if the partners are not true to each other, there is hardly any chance of the marriage becoming successful.

2. Trust - Unless both the partners trust each other, the relationship is bound to collapse soon enough. For a lasting bond, a partner should always trust the other to make the right decisions.

3. Understanding - In a marital relationship, many a times discord happens because there is a lack of understanding between the partners. To expect your partner to be perfect is too much, as nobody in this world can possibly be so. It is better to compromise on the little things in order to ensure that the bigger picture is a rosy one.

4. Physical Affection - It is important to keep the spark alive in a marriage, especially when the relationship becomes a bit older. Physical affection is as important for this as the other key factors.

5. Communication - Communication is crucial if any relationship has to succeed, not only a marital one. The partners should always be able to speak their mind to each other, without the fear of censure.

Besides these, other equally essential factors that define a successful marriage include commitment, compatibility, respect, & forgiveness. These simple keys are all it takes to have a strong & lasting relationship with your marital partner.

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Simple Guide To Planning A Christian Wedding

7 May

Planning a wedding, of any faith, is an elaborate task which requires a lot of planning & efforts. A Christian wedding also involves the same. There is detailed planning to be done in order to ensure that the event is successful.

Planning A Christian Wedding – What All It Involves

  • One of the most important things to be done while planning a Christian wedding is to choose the Officiate for the wedding ceremony. If the bride or the groom is a regular church attendee, the Officiate chosen could be the pastor of the home church. The Officiate chosen should be one with whom both the bride & groom feel comfortable.
  • It is also necessary to obtain a license before the wedding actually happens. Ensure that the registration is done & proof delivered to the church prior to the actual ceremony.
  • Many times, the church recommends the couple-to-be-married to undergo counseling before the wedding. This may be a good idea, especially if the bride or groom has any doubts about the future.
  • The decorations are a big part of any wedding ceremony. In case, the wedding ceremony is to be held in any church, it is to be ensured that the permission is taken from the concerned authorities (in advance) to put up the kind of decorations one has in mind.
  • Wedding rehearsals are always a must in order to ensure that the final ceremony is solemnized without any hurdles. A wedding rehearsal is a good thing as then everybody will get a feel of what they are supposed to do & the chances of things going wrong are lessened to quite a degree.
  • To ensure that there are no-minute-issues at the ceremony, one needs to ensure that gets acquainted with the rules & regulations prescribed at the venue. Many places strictly prohibit the serving of alcohol. Smoking is also disallowed at many locations. Such rules should be kept in mind while planning the Christian Wedding.

Keeping these points in mind will ensure that wedding ceremony goes off smoothly and the guests & family do not have to face any problems.

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MatrimonialsIndia.Com – Blogs Release April 2013

3 May

How To Rekindle Your Wife’s Love
Let’s face it at the outset. It is not easy. With the hundreds of guides starting with “How To”, at least a dozen must be on how to get your wife’s love back. Some of them speak about the ways that you can surprise her, while others focus on the merits of appreciations [...]

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Can One Mend a Relationship After Cheating
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Symbols Associated With Matrimony
The bond of matrimony is one of the most sacred bonds one can share. Matrimony links two people physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. One’s spouse is someone one goes back home to, looks forward to talk to, share joys, sorrows, insecurities, doubts, apprehensions, fears, and so much more [...]

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Symbols Associated With Matrimony

30 Apr

The bond of matrimony is one of the most sacred bonds one can share. Matrimony links two people physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. One’s spouse is someone one goes back home to, looks forward to talk to, share joys, sorrows, insecurities, doubts, apprehensions, fears, and so much more. The act of joining two lives in matrimony also involves the use of several vows, symbols, emotions and belief. These symbols make the realization of the happy moments that bind the two people together. Whether they are in the form of offerings made to the Almighty, or wedding symbols exchanged between the bride and groom or even elements used in the form of decoration, the entire set up of a wedding is enriching and overwhelming in a big way.

But what are these symbols being spoken about here? The Catholic Church follows certain traditions, based on which, the preparation and proceedings of a wedding are carried out. The symbols used here have some meaning or the other and even though these are materialistic elements, so to speak, but their significance and existence at a wedding ceremony solemnizes the ceremony even more.

Essential Elements That Act As Symbols In Matrimony

Rings: These are small yet extremely significant symbols of marriage of two people. Rings, or wedding bands, as they are referred to, were initially considered betrothal presents and are now an accepted symbol for the being married. These rings depict the eternal love of love for a married couple.

Unity Candle: The Unity candle generally symbolizes the unity or joining of two families and the unity of the bride and the groom. It is an eternal symbol of commitment to each other.

White Weddings Dress: In Christian weddings, one of the biggest attractions is the white wedding gown of the bride. The dress has a twin-significance, of purity and reverence to the Almighty.

Music, Flowers and Decoration: Other symbols like music, flowers and decoration add to the holy set up of the union of the people.

The symbols of marriage are holy, sacred and as important in the wedding ceremony, as are the celebrations, the congratulations and the bond mentioned in the beginning of this piece. The presence of these expands the joy of the people around and the elation of the couple as well.

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Can One Mend a Relationship After Cheating

22 Apr

The most unfortunate thing that can happen to someone in a steady, committed relationship is betrayal.  For ones who may have experienced this feeling personally, the feeling might not even be describable, let alone doing something about it. The reason behind this could lie in the unexpected truth that surrounds a person on being faced with it. The knowledge that your loved one was not being truthful to you, this feeling brings with it a lot of insecurity, sadness and the realization that things were not what you thought they were.

In the midst of all the overwhelmed feelings, it might not be possible for one to think rationally, from the other person’s point of view. The question concerning whether you can still put your trust in someone who supposedly did not even think twice, before betraying you. While contemplating on these ideas, one tosses and turns in misery, suffers sleeplessness, tearful, lonely days & nights. This probably happens because the person who cheated was too dear to be lost, forgotten, but was the source of a lot of pain. Would it be possible that person be forgiven? What are chances that what happened once will not, again?

Writer Paulo Coelho feels it might not. In a famous quote he states what he feels about something that happens once cannot happen again, whereas something that happens twice might always happen a third time. So, one should consider his or her personal case first. Has it been happening often that acts of betrayal have come up to the fore? Or was it a one-time occurrence, done due to a slip of judgment? This should, for starters, help anyone facing this sort of trauma do some thinking about the situation. Also, one can think about whether the relationship is worth saving and being worked out again.

If one does decide on wanting to work things out and mend a relationship after cheating, it will mostly be a tough journey ahead. In case of both the people involved, there are a lot of uncertainties, doubts, overwhelmed emotions and above all, a huge effort that needs to be made in the direction of sorting issues out.

One can begin with talking. It might be the most difficult thing to do, but it is the most appropriate too. Also, try to understand each other’s point of view, and try figuring a middle path that may help ease doubts & insecurities and help the two people know each other better, after something like a confrontation takes place. But one should always remember, to lose one’s dignity should never be an option. Whichever path one chooses to follow, one’s self-respect should always remain in place, as, the lack of the same slowly but gradually withdraws all kinds of emotions from within. With differing situations everywhere, it is not possible to come up with a clear cut solution, but these points can always help think better.

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Know When To End A Relationship

16 Apr

Love, attractions, and infatuations are feelings which do not follow established rules of logic. You can never be sure about when or with whom you would get attracted to or when someone gets attracted to you. It is love’s refusal to fall into the patterns of logic which has left many an individual in unsavory relationships for far longer than they should have. Thus, it would be wonderful to know the proper time to end a relationship and not suffer for those extra moments. The following signs in your partner may be indications that he or she is not the right partner after all.

Complains About Exes
You should be wary of individuals who are constantly speaking ill of their exes. If you are in a relationship with a person who speaks ill of or uses swear words for his or her exes, you might very well be the next in line.

Changes Like A Chameleon
A person who cannot stay true to his or her words should not be trusted very easily. The tendency of going back on words is very often the tendency of a liar. Bad liars can be caught easily and most of the times they accept that they have been lying. But those that can lie well often make changes to what they had said earlier and get away with it.

Unreachable Whereabouts
A person whose whereabouts are frequently unknown and unreachable can be up to no good. He or she may be addicted to drugs or you may be being cheated on. The simple fact that your partner has to hide his or her whereabouts from you may be a red flag, big enough to signal the end of the relationship.

Change In Tone And Behavior
Look for changes in the way that your partner behaves with you. The pitch of the voice may have increased, the sarcasm and accusations in the tone may have increased, or a person who could always find time to be with you does not show up even at the important occasions. These changes may reflect a dwindling of interest and could mean that you are on your way out.

The above steps may sound logical but are in fact very difficult to implement by a person who is still in love with his or her partner. One of the most difficult things for a person in love is to accept that the relationship with the loved one has reached a dead end. However, keeping a logical head during such times would go a long way in ensuring that there are no more heart breaks than what cannot be avoided.

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How To Rekindle Your Wife’s Love

9 Apr

How-To-Rekindle-Your-Wife’s-Love-MILet’s face it at the outset. It is not easy. With the hundreds of guides starting with “How To”, at least a dozen must be on how to get your wife’s love back. Some of them speak about the ways that you can surprise her, while others focus on the merits of appreciations. However, all of them would account to nothing if done without sincerity. If you try to fool your wife by lying about how wonderful she is when you feel quite the opposite, she will catch your bluff in a matter of eye-blinks. That would do more harm than ever to the chances of rekindling her love for you. The following suggestions focus on you understanding her value, so that you rekindle your love for your wife before attempting to rekindle her love for you.

Take Notice Her Contributions
One of the most prominent reasons for the loss of love between couples is that they start taking each other for granted after a few years. When you come back from the office, you are absolutely sure that your wife will have completed all her tasks. Then begins the phase when your appreciations stop, and your wife begins to feel that she is performing a thankless role. Remember the initial times together, when you would not tire thanking the heavens for just a smile on her lips. She would do nothing more than throwing a careless smile at you and you would have thanked her a thousand times, if provided the opportunity! Look at all the tireless efforts which she puts in now to make your life comfortable and realize how thankless you have been. Once, you realize this, go to her and thank her for all that she has done for you over all the years. Be earnest in your praises, and don’t say anything which you don’t mean. You might think that you are a good actor, but your wife is a better detective!

Gifts! Gifts!
When it comes to women, gifts have always done the trick, and for ages now. Surprise her with gifts on days she is least expecting them. Contrary to what the ads for diamonds will have you believe, women are not half excited by the price of the gift than the manner in which it is given. Given properly, and with the right dose of romance, a single rose can achieve what entire sets of pearls cannot. Vacations, dinner-outs, movies, etc. are other brilliant ways of rekindling your wife’s love.

Give Her Your Time
Most marriage counselors opine that marriages break when the couple stops spending enough time with each other. No matter how busy your schedule is, find out time and spend time with her. Replace the window-drapes, re-design the drawing room, or just let her lie in your arms. Just being with her will assure her in multiple ways.

The attempts to rekindle your wife’s love should not be a temporary fix of the problems. They should be long lasting solutions which pave the way for the romance being kept alive all throughout.

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MatrimonialsIndia.Com – Blogs Release March 2013

3 Apr

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Small Tricks to Surprise Your Husband
Planning and implementing small surprises for your husband is a good way of keeping the romance alive. And it is also wonderful to know that the tricks do not cost much. Thus, they can be played now and then. Some of the ideas mentioned below can work wonders in pleasantly surprising your husband.[...]

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Small Tricks to Surprise Your Husband

29 Mar

Small-Tricks-to-Surprise-Your-Husband-MIPlanning and implementing small surprises for your husband is a good way of keeping the romance alive. And it is also wonderful to know that the tricks do not cost much. Thus, they can be played now and then. Some of the ideas mentioned below can work wonders in pleasantly surprising your husband.

Come Home To A Surprise
This technique can be used to share good news like promotions, etc. and should be done after thee husband comes home from work. He will naturally be tired. Go on with the usual activities like any other day for a while and give him his usual cup of tea or glass of juice. When he has settled down, expecting the next part of the schedule, go to him and give him the news. The wife can explore her creativity while deciding the manner in which the news is to be broken to him. Some news are best conveyed in whispers.

Pretending That You Forgot
This trick always works. And the best part is that it can be employed for any number of times. When there’s an important day like his birthday approaching, pretend that you don’t remember about it. Don’t speak anything about it in front of him. Even though most men will say otherwise, they do care about the dates of the special occasions, at least those that they can remember! Plan a surprise birthday bash, and hide it well from him. Wake him up to the birthday party when the clock strikes the midnight hour.

Visit Him At Places You Are Not Expected
One of the surest ways of surprising your husband is to visit him at places where he usually does not expect you. Such places may include his workplace, etc. However, be sure not to interrupt him for too long. For example, pay him a visit during the lunch hour at his office. One thing which every wife should know is that a husband introducing his wife to his colleagues is a proud and happy man.

Surprising your husband does not always come for a huge price. In fact, very often, they are the little incidents which hardly involved any cost which your husband will fondly remember for a long time.

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